In Loving Memory

Do not waste moments. Put forth light and love into this world. Emanate joy and kindness. And cherish each day, for our time here is never guaranteed.

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may your wings be strong
-her favorite quote, from the movie Maleficent.

Dear readers. It is with a heavy heart that I write this. 2018 has seen some significant losses of meaningful lives, whether it be in #SQLFamily or elsewhere. Sadly, that toll increases again.

In October this year, my wife of 10 years passed away unexpectedly, at home. No chronically debilitating illnesses being fought off, no sudden acute onset of horrible afflictions, just here one day, gone the next. Words could not express the deep sorrow and profound shock we experienced that night, and in the days and weeks that followed.

I count myself incredibly blessed to have been loved by her. She loved so deeply and so fiercely, pouring out her generous heart to those who would take the time to truly know her. The day we said “I do!” was the happiest day of my life. She had a contagious laugh and a smile that could light up the room, even when she was hurting, sometimes more than anybody knew. It gives me some small comfort that she no longer feels any pain, but is surrounded instead by joy, light, and love.

She was a sensitive soul, leaving a little bit of herself in every life she touched. She was an empath, which means she would often know how you were feeling before you did. She felt the emotions of others, magnified in herself, and was an amazing listener, who could always be counted on for comfort and support.

The holidays were her favorite time of year, specifically Thanksgiving and Christmas. So today, on the heels of our day of thanks and the toes of the season of giving, I encourage you with two things.

First, be thankful for your loved ones, your family and friends, and most of all your children, if you are so blessed to have them. Life is so precious. Spend it with those you love, and do not waste any moments.

Second, give of yourself unto others, be it time, money, helping hands, a listening ear, or a friendly voice. Put forth light and love into this world, not darkness or hate. Emanate joy and kindness, not malice or bitterness.

And above all, cherish each day, for our time here is never guaranteed.

May you ever walk the beaches of paradise,
May you dance along the sunsets,
And sing until the end of eternity.
You are forever loved, and always in my heart.

Author: natethedba

I'm a SQL Server DBA, family man, and all-around computer geek.

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