What, ANOTHER blog?

Head on over to natethewriter.home.blog (yes, it’s still Wordpress, because I’m cheap!)

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Yes, dear readers, it’s high time I drew a clear line between the tech/professional content and the personal. Also, I realized that I need to write more, because it’s been helping me through the grieving process. And a lot of that writing is going to be very… non-technical.

Don’t get me wrong; I need to, and will, resume my database-related blogging too. At some point. I promise! But I’m trying to honor my wife’s memory and take to heart her words of encouragement to me, when she said “You know, people always told me I should be a writer. But you should try it too; you’re pretty good at it.” I feel like she’s passed along some of her soul and spirit to me. If nothing else, at least I’ll get to show the world a little glimpse into her imagination, as I gather the little bits of sparkle that she left with me in her journals and scrapbooks. And hopefully, honor that soul and spirit by exposing some of my own.

So, head on over to natethewriter.home.blog (because I wasn’t feeling terribly creative — I know, not a good start for a so-called “writer” — but I decided to stick with the pattern)… even though I have absolutely NO delusions that I’m in any sense a “real writer”, just an amateur with the desire to express thoughts and ideas in concrete form. And follow, subscribe, stalk, etc.! Hope to see you there in the comments. ❤

keira looking at camera
She’s so excited!

What Marvel Movies Do I Need to Watch?

Welcome to the first post of the new year. I’ll be keeping things a little on the lighter side for now. I’m still very into my work and learning lots of share-worthy things in the data world. But for now, movies!

I also want to take a moment to appreciate those who reached out to us after our devastating loss. Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. Please continue to remember our family as we struggle to find a sense of normalcy.

So, some of my elder moviegoers asked me the question that many people have been asking over the last year or two: “What Marvel movies do I really need to watch before Infinity War?”, or more recently, “before End Game?”. More generally, which ones are worthwhile viewing to a casual non-geek, to someone who doesn’t need to obsess over every little minutiae, someone who is not by nature a “comic book movie lover”. It’s a completely fair question, and honestly it needs more.. less nerdy answers.

Hence, this post! Go read it on the new blog!

In Loving Memory

Do not waste moments. Put forth light and love into this world. Emanate joy and kindness. And cherish each day, for our time here is never guaranteed.

may your wings be strong
-her favorite quote, from the movie Maleficent.

Dear readers. It is with a heavy heart that I write this. 2018 has seen some significant losses of meaningful lives, whether it be in #SQLFamily or elsewhere. Sadly, that toll increases again.

In October this year, my wife of 10 years passed away unexpectedly, at home. No chronically debilitating illnesses being fought off, no sudden acute onset of horrible afflictions, just here one day, gone the next. Words could not express the deep sorrow and profound shock we experienced that night, and in the days and weeks that followed.

I count myself incredibly blessed to have been loved by her. She loved so deeply and so fiercely, pouring out her generous heart to those who would take the time to truly know her. The day we said “I do!” was the happiest day of my life. She had a contagious laugh and a smile that could light up the room, even when she was hurting, sometimes more than anybody knew. It gives me some small comfort that she no longer feels any pain, but is surrounded instead by joy, light, and love.

She was a sensitive soul, leaving a little bit of herself in every life she touched. She was an empath, which means she would often know how you were feeling before you did. She felt the emotions of others, magnified in herself, and was an amazing listener, who could always be counted on for comfort and support.

The holidays were her favorite time of year, specifically Thanksgiving and Christmas. So today, on the heels of our day of thanks and the toes of the season of giving, I encourage you with two things.

First, be thankful for your loved ones, your family and friends, and most of all your children, if you are so blessed to have them. Life is so precious. Spend it with those you love, and do not waste any moments.

Second, give of yourself unto others, be it time, money, helping hands, a listening ear, or a friendly voice. Put forth light and love into this world, not darkness or hate. Emanate joy and kindness, not malice or bitterness.

And above all, cherish each day, for our time here is never guaranteed.

May you ever walk the beaches of paradise,
May you dance along the sunsets,
And sing until the end of eternity.
You are forever loved, and always in my heart.

Movie Review Wednesday

So I’ve Been Thinking…

Data isn’t literally everything.  I mean it is, technically, but it’s not all super happy fun times, so we need to take a break once in a while and do something less neuron-intensive.  Thus, my new segment: movie reviews!  Because, despite what you may have read, all work and no play make Nate a dull boy.  And yes, I promised you this blog would be professional.  Mostly.  I remember specifically using that word.  So don’t wag your naggy finger at me.  If you don’t like it, you can simply avoid the tags like #offtopic and #movies.

Moved to new blog; clicky!